Audrey Keeton, LCSW-The Coastal Counselor

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A step by step guide to building healthier boundaries

Step 1- Identify what boundaries you want to set: Take some time to think about what boundaries you want to set. What do you feel comfortable doing and what don’t you want to do? Are there certain people or situations that you want to limit your involvement in?

Step 2- Communicate your boundaries to others: It’s important to communicate your boundaries to those around you. Let people know what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not. If necessary, have a conversation about it with them so they can understand.

Step 3-Respect the boundaries of others: Respect the boundaries of others as much as you want others to respect yours. Respect the decisions they make and the boundaries they set.

Step 4- Stand your ground: Once you have communicated your boundaries and the boundaries of others, make sure to stick to them. Don’t let others pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with.

Step 5- Don’t be too hard on yourself: It’s okay to make mistakes and not always follow your boundaries. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you do slip up, just make sure to learn from your mistakes and do better next time.

Step 6- Ask for help if you need it: If you’re having trouble setting and sticking to your boundaries, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Talk to a friend or a professional who can give you advice and help you work on your boundaries.